I am positive you are all aware of how huge an issue bullying is in the 21st century. Statistics that I have found show:

Bullying is happening everywhere and the chances that your child, or you, will encounter it are high. Around the world, statistics are being collated on the impact and prevalence of bullying, particularly within schools and online in cyber space.

With all schools talking about bullying and the media regularly reporting on latest research, it could seem like we’re in a bullying epidemic. But, it’s not all bad – the incidence of bullying, particularly the traditional face-to-face style, according to expert Dr Toni Noble, is not increasing.

“It’s a controversial area but with the effective communication of the message that bullying is unacceptable, it’s just now more likely to be reported,” says Dr Noble, a member of the National Centre Against Bullying, who works with the Federal Government on National Safe Schools Framework being rolled out into all schools later this year.

“Cyber-bullying, on the other hand may be increasing with recent research suggesting that 1 in 10 kids have been cyber-bullied.”

Here is why bullying, and policies and strategies to combat it, are such a high priority for communities and governments.

1. One student in every four in Australian schools is affected by bullying, says recent research commissioned by the Federal Government.
2. An estimated 200 million children and youth around the world are being bullied by their peers, according to the 2007 Kandersteg Declaration Against Bullying in Children and Youth.
3. Kids who are bullied are three times more likely to show depressive symptoms, says the Centre for Adolescent Health.
4. Children who were bullied were up to nine times more likely to have suicidal thoughts, say some studies.
5. Girls who were victims of bullying in their early primary school years were more likely to remain victims as they got older, according to British research.
6. Children who were frequently bullied by their peers were more likely to develop psychotic symptoms in their early adolescence, says more UK research.
7. Girls were much more likely than boys to be victims of both cyber and traditional bullying, says a recent Murdoch Children’s Research Institute study.
8. Children as young as three can become victims of bullying, says Canadian research.
9. Young people who bully have a one in four chance of having a criminal record by the age of 30.
10. Bullying is the fourth most common reason young people seek help from children’s help services.

FROM Kidspot.com.au

*PLEASE NOTE IT IS NOT JUST CHILDREN WHO BULLY OR ARE BULLIED.*

Without any direct suggestion from my experience, my intention is to demonstrate clearly how bullying impacted my personal life, and how I used it to be the woman I am today.

My first conscious recollection of being bullied was at primary school. There was a girl called Leanne who teased the (seemingly to me) living daylights out of me. I could not understand why, and especially as her older sister Debbie and I were good friends. She would say things like your adopted, no one loves you, your ugly etc etc etc. It was horrible to me as a an 8 year old child, and consequently really influenced my already insecure mind. I had nightmares regularly, went searching for my birth certificate which I could not find, nor did I have the courage to ask my mum if I had one.

Then at the age of 13 starting high school my best friend Deborah (now married to the man I was married to, and I am so happy they are happy) had a boyfriend named Scott. Scott and I had been friends since we were about 8 through different schools we attended. Scott was having issues with communicating with Deborah so he would come to me to discuss it. Consequently Scott ended their relationship several weeks later, and he and I remained friends. There were a group of the 5 “tuff” girls in year 9 and they assumed that I had “broken” Scott and Deborah up, and decided they wold become the judge. These lovely girls would meet me most mornings at the school gate as I got of the bus. They set upon me on a daily basis by kicking me in the ankles till I fell over, then would stand on my hands, spit at me and call me a variety of choice names. I did not fight back as it was 5 to 1 and albeit an average maths student, the odds did not look good to me. However after a few days I was over it and reported it to the school mistress. This helped with the physical bullying, yet the verbal increased 10 fold. They would ambush me in the toilets, corridors and taunt me with “look who you run into when you don’t have a gun”, “slut alert” etc etc etc. I was excruciating and I just wanted someone to make it stop. Eventually it did and I became friends with the girls but it was never spoken about, nor did I ask for an explanation or apology.

Fast forward to 2008. I began working in Cairns for Mission Australia as the, Out of Home community care Team leader. In a nut shell setting up and working with young people who were removed from their  families and homes by Child Safety, now the Department of Communities. The manager who employed me, Liz gave me a manual on the program that she had written, and 3 weeks after I started went on 4 weeks leave. I was handed the biggest case in Child safety’s history without any handover, notes or briefing of any kind. Liz had told me that she was to emotionally involved in the case and needed me to sort it out. I was handed what I can only describe as the most unprofessional mess I had ever encountered. Just so you have a small understanding think about one young person costing you and I as tax payers $1.2 Million dollars a year to care for!!!!  So for 10 months I did my absolute best to “clean up her mess”, and achieved good results (including reducing the cost to $600K) for the young person, considering I was the blind leading the blind. About 10 months into it I realized Liz was constantly handing me “her messes” and loading the gun and getting me to fire the bullets to and at other staff and team members. I confronted her one day and said “This is your F*%#%@g mess you clean it up, I am over it”! That as you could imagine did not go down well with someone who was a bully and I had witnessed bullied most of the other team members in the office, including the regional manager. Push came to shove and I stood my ground and continued to say NO, you clean it up. She  then threatened me verbally with work performance reviews, because I would not pass 3 people as qualified TCI (Therapeutic Crisis Interventions trainees). These people she had also employed in a rush and were defiantly not yet competent to be handling the above mentioned case. I had enough and stormed out the office on an Friday afternoon when she told me these people were going to take it all the way if I did not pas them, and I had better “explain” how I came to the conclusion the were not yet competent. Funnily enough when I wrote a formal complaint to the regional manager, I was told the “Yes I know she is a bully and know she was a problem with her previous employer, but I could not do anything till someone complained”. Imagine all the colours of red I saw!

In a very LONG drawn out 2 and a half year process it was proven beyond a doubt the improper management action took place. And as a consequence I was left doing P.T.S.D (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) Again asking for help all the way to the C.E.O from this “Community Organization” and was assured it would be throughly investigated, it fell on deaf ears. Knowing I need help, I sought my own solution to unpacking this “strategy” of P.T.S.D I was doing.

I started seeing the most amazing Psychologist on the planet Dr Peta Stapleton on the Gold Coast. Peta, may well look like what some may see as a “regular” Psychologist yet she spoke my language. Angel card, E.F.T (Emotional Freedom Techniques aka Tapping) and introduced me to N.L.P (Neuro Linguistic Programming). This was the catalyst to new training I attended that gave me the stragergies to look at all that occurred and will occur in my life from a different set of eyes.

Just to reiterate to you how “bad” I did the P.T.S.D. that was a consequence of the bullying, I would rarely leave the house for days on end, literally try to climb under the dash board in my daughters car if she dragged me out of the house on her days off. The trigger was the same 2007 White Toyota Camry that Liz drove. Samantha and Luke would ring me to remind me to eat, leave post-it notes around so I could remember to shower, and do simple chores. My once sharp mind was mush!

During one the the N.L.P. trainings I enrolled in (Chris Howard’s Academy of Wealth and Achievement) I got a “Life changing tool”, that enabled me to turn how I saw the bullying and so many other “things” around. I worked out the EVERYTHING that we bring into our lives, and YES we attract everything (The Secret explains this easily) is a direct reflection of OURSELVES. Science has proven we live in a reflective Universe, and The Biology of Belief by Dr. Bruce Lipton is the evidence. Or in the words of another one of my favourite male authors Dr. Wayne Dyer words, “The Universe only ever shows us what and who we are, NOT what we want”.

It took me a few good swallows to get it  down as I first thought, OUCH however kept swallowing till it sat right with me, and this is what I came up with.

I had 3 incidents of bullying that seemed to be increasing in intensity. One could say like the Feather, Brick & Bus theory…you know the Universe sends us signs so we can see what we need to adjust, softly = a Feather, Medium = a Brick, and they DIDN’T HEAR OR SEE THE SIGNS Hard = a BUS. My feather was Leanne, my brick was the 5 “tuff” girls and yes the BUS was Liz!

You see these 3 “gifts” of people showed me, yes a tad slower than some, and not as slow as others, that I WAS BULLYING MYSELF!   This was the REFLECTION/MIRROR I finally allowed myself to see and take full ownership . You can’t let something go until you thane FULL ownership of it in the first place…it is just not possible. I criticized myself , picked on myself, put myself down, compared myself, allowed people to treat me very badly….and I could go on, however there is a documented chronology of how I used to think in my first book. It’s called Detoxing The Goddess, which you can purchase at http://www.hearts3.com.au It was spot on, and when I was willing to accept that was the reason I had manifested these “gifts” I dissolved all the P.T.S.D in an infinitesimal milli second! GONE…all because it was the TRUTH. I have absolutely no residue from the experience at all. That’s how I know it’s completed been “burned out” of my neural pathways, and I can no longer go back to the “strategy” or thinking that way.

I have said it for years and say it in my Counselling and Coaching sessions with clients, once you GET a lesson, I mean get the Diamond or higher learning from it and leave the gravel behind, you will always recreate the same lesson. This is always through another reflection (or mirror if you like) to make sure you have integrated it into not only your mind but your body as well. It’s like having the knowledge is great however unless you us it it’s a waste of space in your mind.

So I did exactly that, I was working with a woman who was lovely for the first few weeks, then seemed to snap and “bark” at me like I was some type of feral dog. So what I did in the IMMEDIATE situation was, “Yes I apologize I forgot to do that when I closed up last night, however please do not “bark” at me as I deserve to be spoken to better and I so know you are capable of speaking in a much more civilized manner”.  NO BLAME, just facts. Previously I would have stewed on it and “head screwed” myself with thoughts of conversation of blame, bitterness etc etc etc. Now I know I have stopped bullying myself I can immediately, in a Loving respectful way advise people what I deem acceptable to me and how I am willing to allow them to treat me.

Please if nothing else I would Love you to get the gravity of how ENORMOUSLY this “tool” of reflection has enabled me to be a self responsible, positive productive woman, and how even bullying, when you allow it, can to be a GIFT to you.

I am so very passionate about sharing my real LIVING experiences so that others to may see the light within themselves and see their own way home to their Peace and Happiness. I do know that people who bully, also have a “gift” to see how they to can adjust themselves to Being, Doing, Having and Giving so much more in our amazing Universe.

Please feel free to post this on your wall and let’s see if the reflection enables others to also stop bullying themselves and therefore become so much more than they even dreamed possible.

I appreciate all feedback, as I know there are DIAMONDS and Learning in everything…so I continue to take the DIAMONDS and leave the gravel behind.

Namaste Louise Maree

http://www.hearts3.com.au

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I want to give and serve the world as I know you do as well…don’t you! I believe to serve the world we need to enable people to change their thinking. The majority of the populations thinking is of irreverence. I can’t do anything, I am just one person. That’s exactly how we arrived where we are, excusitus! Virgin Global Love is my way, to changing people’s thinking from focusing outside them to focusing inside themselves. Imagine, for a moment, people collectively through thinking, joining together to make the MUCH needed difference, of self acceptance and the spin off of that is Loving each other. Virgin Global Love is such a simplistic FUN way for people to start thinking about what Love is to them. You know the saying change the consciousness and you change the world. You do what to be a world leader in leading by example don’t you!

Just as Earth Hour that also started in Australia in 2007 with 2.2 plus Million people turning off the lights and excess electricity for an hour. This little Aussie conception Earth Hour just keeps growing. On Saturday March 26th, Earth Hour 2011 became the biggest Earth Hour ever. 135 countries took part, many for the first time including Lebanon, Jamaica, Iran, Uganda, Swaziland, Tajikistan, Chad, Azerbaijan, Gibraltar, Palestine, Suriname, Uzbekistan, Trinidad & Tobago and Lesotho.

Earth Hour 2011 marked the beginning of a new era, with individuals, organizations and governments asked to go beyond the hour by committing to ongoing action for the planet.

This year’s event has illustrated without question what can be achieved when people unite with a common purpose and rally to action.

Earth Hour 2012 will take place on Saturday 31st March at 8:30 PM – so save the date.

There is so much evidence available today to show us “How to” do be and have so many things, feelings and experiences, right? So I have taken some of my favorite proven sciences of collective consciousness from the divine Gregg Braden, Dr Bruce Lipton and the Maharishi effect, and conceived Virgin Global Love. I believe and know from the above proven sciences that it only takes the square root of 1% of the global population to enable massive change in the world. Basically in a nut shell what we think is energy. That energy floods not only our every single cell in our body, and we have approximately between 50 – 70 trillion, it also always emanates out into the entire universe. I am totally convinced that I want to be completely responsible for not only what I put into my amazing body, but everything I put into the universe. Don’t you? Remember how it feels when you walk into a room and you get a “gut feeling” that something feels off…that’s energy that you are feeling. That energy is coming form someone who is in or has been in that room. This simple evidence is proof that what we think is what we put into our universe. You have a CHOICE about what you contribute to the universe. Yes everyone can and does make a difference.  EVERY DAY! I see it as my way of being a “greenie” by choosing positive thoughts instead of negative toxic thoughts.

You to can do your own research to find out what a difference collectively ACTING on a idea makes.

My DREAM of  Virgin Global Love…close your eyes and imagine everyone on our beautiful planet still, and collectively consciously contemplating LOVE for three minutes (a great place to start) Three minutes you may well ask why…Three is the number of truth and communication and I know we all want to communicate the truth, don’t we! Now I have the awareness of what my thoughts do, I make a very conscious choice to see the good in everything and everyone, instead of the negative as I used to. Without any direct suggestion from me perhaps now that you are also aware of the impact of your thoughts, you will choose to also make positive thoughts your primary language.

You can now allow yourself to feel the healing beginning can’t you! I am asking everyone who registers to participate to donate AUD $1. Ecology is imperative to me. I will donate the vast majority of the money  to proven charities that I believe are also ecological. Sir Richard Branson’s charity Virgin Unite and I Love Bono and his work with One to educate our world and irradiate poverty. There is a range of  Virgin Global Love merchandise available which you are able to purchase. Your purchase will also be a daily reminder to think your thoughts of  Virgin Global Love and all be responsible for your positive contribution of achieving Balance, Harmony and Love in our world. I believe we all want that, so here’s your opportunity to play your part.

Once we have 8000, yes I rounded it up (the square root of 1% of the current population 6,852,472,823. as at mid 2010) participants registered, and you can make this happen so quickly by paying the link forward to all your family, friends and contact, we will all unite at a predetermined date and time. In the mean time just practice consciously stopping every single day and practice 3 minutes of flooding your body and the universe around you with thoughts of Love. I do this every morning that I am blessed to wake up before bouncing out of bed to experience my wonderfully happy, healthy and abundant life.

You do want to be a part of changing the consciousness of the planet don’t you! Well NOW is your opportunity to act.

Virgin Global Love is a green event, and therefore it will be promoted using social media and paying it forward to all your friends and followers. Sound like a whole lot of Fun doesn’t it!

Virgin Global Love is the catalyst to catapult this amazing world from the ridged fixed thinking of old, to the fluidity that is our natural state. Fluid is so much more fun is so many ways, you can see that can’t you!

Simply click on the link below to register. You will receive emails keeping you up to date on what Virgin Global Love is doing and how many people are registered.

Has anyone else noticed the tragic lack of Femininity in our world? I am appalled by this glaring deficiency, and saddened by its contribution to the mess we see in our world today. I am hoping to play some part in stopping the rot with my latest project…Balanceology Fun shops.

To this end, I have identified three broad target groups, and shall be delivering material specific to each:

1. Females
2. Males
3. Couples

My aim is to re-educate Females in the art of Femininity, and Males understanding their role in the 21st century and beyond, and teach Couples to achieve truly balanced and successful relationships.

Males are, in short, an underrated commodity. They will gain by learning to utilize their authentic and full potential.

Females are also priceless commodities, and all possess within themselves the solution to the problem…the very powers necessary to correct this pandemic imbalance. Females of all ages will benefit from learning how to focus and direct their innate, although often forgotten true nature.

Louise Maree believes because of our own insecurities and distorted mind reads of what we think others are thinking or mean from what they said, we females in general have foolishly chosen to compete in a power struggle with men…all for the sake of some supposed equality.

New flash…you cannot nor shall you compare Breasts with Testicles!

This has been the root of the problem, and has literally catapulted us into the ridiculous state of gender confusion we see in today’s society. Females are NOT supposed to compete with men – or with their natural roles. I am referring to those roles that men naturally perform: to please and protect, to hunt and provide shelter. Females, on the other hand, are naturally feminine: vulnerable and receptive, gatherers and nurturers.

Vast social changes over the past 100 years or so have caused many unnecessary and undesirable changes to what was always intended to be our natural roles. Things have now degenerated to the point that our poor males no longer know what on earth their role is…and we females are blindly competing with them in their confusion! Alas, the gentle art of femininity is disappearing along with the ozone layer…

Females are born with the inherent nature to be feminine, vulnerable and receptive. My interpretation of these three traits is:
Feminine: soft/gentle, creative/nesting, present, caring.
Vulnerable: openly showing emotions, unrestrained in the giving of love, innocent.
Receptive: able to receive without having to give back, openness.

Males are born with the inherent nature to be providers, pleasers and protectors. My interpretation of these three traits is:
Provider: providing financially and materially for his chosen partner/family.
Pleaser: seeing that his actions and choices are making his partner happy, this aids in his desire for procreation and a feeling of achievement
Protector: able to keep his partner and family safe from danger and other males.

Yes roles have evolved since the beginning of time as we know it. So how do we adapt to the 21st century and beyond?
That’s what Balanceology Fun shops will teach you, the simple fun tools how to communicate and balance you and your relationship firstly with yourself then with others.

To quote the words of Marianne Williamson in her book entitled Enchanted Love: The Mystical Power of Intimate Relationships

“Only a woman with high standards, who has no interest in anything but the most adult interaction between a man and a woman, has the capacity to inspire a man to learn how to act like one.  A man will not be attracted, or at least he will not remain attracted, to a woman who emotionally tries to do the work for him, because in his heart what he wants most is the experience of his own manhood”.

Females I believe need to learn how to allow our men to step up to the plate…so they can fulfill their natural desire to feel successful. Men Love to feel like they win at most everything they do. Of course the benefit for us, as females, is that we get our needs met. Win Win all around. The old cliché of “a happy wife, a happy life” has always been true. Ask any man in a relationship personal or professional! Speaking for myself, I feel so much nicer to be around when I am happy. And as a bonus have so much more to give to those around me.

True balance in life and relationships can only be achieved by invoking our authentic gender roles and using our natural traits collaboratively. With the appropriate ‘awakening’ – through my new Balanceology Fun shops – you can and will recapture this natural balance, and greatly enhance all of your relationships in the process.
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